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Valentine’s Day: Something I’ll Never Understand

vcxir0dlwpbpnlks0yqnThere have been several things I’ve never understood life….why is it never as warm in my apartment as it is in my bed?  Why can’t I wear stripes with polka dots?  Why can’t I put ketchup on everything?  But what I really don’t understand is why anyone feels the need to justify what they do on Valentine’s Day.

We’ve all seen the articles…what to do with your significant other….what to do if you’re single…etc.  I don’t fully understand the pressure or gravity of it, but I never have.  As a child, I never really cared about my first kiss, my first crush, my first relationship.  I was surrounded by boys at home and just didn’t see the appeal.  There’s so much emphasis put on these things, and I still don’t understand it.

Personally, I prefer doing close to nothing for Valentine’s Day regardless of if I’m in a relationship or not.  Last year Mr. Who and I went to see Drunk Shakespeare, which was a blast , but we had to do it a week before the day since I was traveling solo to Hawaii on Valentine’s Day itself. There’s something relaxing and meditative about an evening to yourself on Valentine’s Day.

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I don’t have a cat, but if I did…this would be my Valentine’s Day

Since Valentine’s is on a Tuesday this year, I’ll be spending it alone, and I’m fine with that.  I’m not a big fan of going out during the beginning of the week.  I’m still recovering from having an alarm clock wake me up each day. I’ll be in the swing of things by Thursday, but at that point, I’ll only have one more alarm till I can sleep in. I won’t be making any “what to do on Valentine’s Day when you’re alone” plans.  I’ll be doing whatever I feel like to make it a relaxing evening for myself.  May be that makes me selfish, but perhaps sometimes you need to be.

 

The pressure we put on ourselves to create the perfect night is just ridiculous.  Why do you need to justify what you do this one night a year?  One of my friends felt she was lame since she simply had nothing to do. I felt bad for her, and not because she’s single.  She felt that she wasn’t good enough by being single or enjoying a night to herself.  That is heartbreaking.

pressure-relationship-society-parents-social-media-national-holiday-funny-ecard-y8pWhat’s the point of a holiday that only pressures us into the point of disliking ourselves?  I understand that this holiday can be fun.  I’ve had fun with it in the past as well, but the pressure that goes along with the holiday really has caused me to think.  May be it was the conversation with my friend.  It’s not something I ever really put stock into, but there are people out there who let the holiday affect them.  May be we all need to just take a break from pressures of what we think we should be doing.  I wish I could make it easier for her, and for everyone who feel that they aren’t enough on this day.  A facebook friend of mine made it a point to thank those who were in relationships that didn’t post any pictures or ridiculously mushy statuses.  I couldn’t help but wonder, what exactly are we doing to ourselves by putting that on ourselves?  Why does one night a year make such an impact on us?

Are you a supporter of the holiday?  Or are you someone who doesn’t care for it?  Have you ever let the pressure catch up to you?

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31 thoughts on “Valentine’s Day: Something I’ll Never Understand

  1. I might feel differently if I were in a relationship but right now I have no real interest in Valentine’s Day. It’s not even something that would help me in my blog niche so just another day for me.

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  2. I don’t get too excited about Valentine’s Day either, but I think it’s nice to have a day where you get dressed up and have a nice night out. Often times we get too caught up in the daily hustle and bustle and don’t make time for things like this.

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  3. I’ve never been overly interested in Valentines Day regardless of whether I was single or not. Also I think the day should focus more on the many different kinds of love we receive from all kinds of people in our lives not just the romantic kind.

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  4. Honestly, it’s just like any other day. My husband and I like celebrating any time together that he has off from studying, so the fact that he finished a big exam that day was a cause for celebration more than Valentines Day, haha! We celebrated with homemade pizza, a bottle of wine, and Netflix!

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  5. I also don’t like all the pressure about the things you are supposed to do on Valentine’s Day. If you feel like going out, you should. If you feel like doing nothing special, that’s ok too. If you are single, it’s no big deal really. I’ve taken this burden off my shoulders years ago. 🙂

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  6. I remember the thrill of getting my very first Valentine rose and box of chocolates. It did make me feel so special. However, as the years go by, I came to understand that Valentine’s day should be everyday. My kids are all grown up now, and they have their own affairs to attend to. Me and my husband spend a weekend together at home, doing movie marathons, bingeing on popcorn, potato chips, and beer. 🙂 I look forward to Valentine’s day every year because of all the discounts the stores put out on their “Valentine’s Day items.” 🙂

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  7. Thank you for speaking the truth! I really think Valentine’s day shouldn’t be celebrated like this. It gives people the wrong view about love. Over the years, I’ve paid less and less attention to it!

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  8. I feel the same, my husband works as usually and we bring gifts for each other. Love is not meant for one day only neither we need any special day to express it, this is what i feel.

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  9. I feel that these holidays, all the festivals are made so much hype due to commercialisation and media. We should make all the people feel special in our lives who take care of us throughout the year but not only a single V-day!

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  10. Valentine’s Day isn’t a huge holiday for me, but it is special for a different reason: it’s my boyfriend and I’s anniversary (monthly, that is). We aren’t the kind of couple that posts endless couple selfies on the Internet (especially since he’s more private about it), but we make sure we celebrate love every day instead of just one. Regardless, we still had a blast on Valentine’s Day. 🙂

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